Dying is hard but returning to life is even more difficult and challenging.
What the heck am I talking about? I died in a boating accident and drowned in 1983. You can read about my Near-Death Experience (NDE) on my website, but what I want to share here are some of the life-altering aftereffects an NDE can bring about in an experiencer’s life. Just think about it one minute and you can understand the conflict of living a life that is confining and limited in our physical form. When in the light we have an unlimited ability to connect to the universal all and our true nature. It is an incredibly loving experience that is humbling beyond words. But back to life and living in this world after such an experience.
First Let’s Look At Judgment.
In my NDE there was an all all-encompassing life review that was shared with my soul group of light beings. The review looked at every detail of my life, good and bad. So you can imagine I did not want to share my most unsavory moments in life with this group of loving beings. I was judging myself, but the most marvelous thing was, my family of light beings was not. They were emanating a pure love that was unconditional so there was no judgment attached. In the Light, you also see the interconnection between all living and non-living things in our universe. Every time we have an interaction with someone or something there is an energetic exchange.
In physical life, we can barely notice this exchange unless we train ourselves to be more sensitive. Well, I can say that every time I used judgment against someone in my life review it created an energetic exchange that was disruptive and blinded me to the true nature of the situation or person. The ripples caused by those exchanges were even more disturbing than I knew. The more energy I put into a wrongly judged event the more far-reaching the ripples of effect would range outward beyond my perception.
When returning to life after that experience I wanted to become as loving and nonjudgmental as my light family. But experiencers bump into a world of judgment not just being judged about the NDE but we feel judged about everything. As an old sailor, it isn’t easy to change course in midstream. A life full of habits doesn’t change in an instant. Sometimes we can fool ourselves to think we can change that fast but it takes an effort to develop new habits. In life, we have these wonderful emotions that can be attached to our judgment. When that happens most of the time we blind ourselves to the truth. Many times we rush passionately forward unknowing the truth only to create more suffering and judgments.
After many mistakes, I would remember the lessons from my NDE and slowly change. You can not be exposed to that much unconditional love without it changing the way you work and think. Some in the NDE community call it a re-wiring of the mental psyche. Whatever it is, it happens to most experiencers and it changes the way we live our lives. We can’t help it. Many people see us as detached because we don’t want to jump to judgment. That is not true, we are much more attached than ever and trying to see as clearly as we can in this bodily form. We will use discernment and look at things with our hearts until we feel we know the truth. But we are as human as the next person so we are fallible.
Seeking truth requires patience to get beyond the drama that life presents us on a daily basis. Our judgments create the greatest suffering including stress and disease. One only has to live in this world to see the suffering that judgment brings. So becoming a little less judgmental is not a bad thing and is very desirable to everyone not just experiencers.
False Personas
Another thing that happens when we return is we are stripped of the false personas we had spent our whole life developing. We develop false personas to show the world how we wanted them to see us. We wanted to appear smarter, stronger, confident, altogether, or maybe beautiful and standing tall. Whatever we made up, we used these personas for different life situations. We were hiding our true self so no one could reach us and that way we were protecting ourselves. Well, what happens is we get such an in-depth look at our true nature in the NDE, that we can accept who we are without all the false trappings.
We are far from perfect and know our faults, but how can we develop non-judgmental if we pick up those old false personas and are not showing our true selves. It can be terribly frightening at first stripped bare and exposed. But to develop non-judgment you can no longer mislead someone else into a false judgment. We have to be truthful and clear to avoid false judgment. After you step out as yourself you see no one can really harm your true nature because it is a part of the Universal All. There is a new sense of freedom and strength by living authentically and in step with our true nature.
Near-Death Experiences can give every one of us wonderful tools for living. Living life as our true selves with less judgment is just one tool in the box. I know I’m trying to use this instrument as often as possible.
I wish you Infinite Love and Wisdom ~ Peace
